Jenn:
I think everyone has had a moment like this your frustrated,angry and your child says something to you. Anything, and you snap. You yell SHUT UP or LEAVE ME ALONE! Taking your frustration out on your innocent child. Why? Why do we do this? I have done this on more occasions then I would like to admit. I love my children more then I can say. But when I am angry they are the perfect little targets. They won't yell back. They offer no threat to me, and will still love me. Even after I have screamed at them. I feel awful after yelling at them. To my benefit, I have gotten a lot better at directing my anger at the correct person. Still sometimes I lose my patience too quickly. It's still a work in progress though.
Jamie:
So the other day I was having a dissagreement with my husband and was extremely irritated. Well, I was getting the kids up from their nap and trying to feed them. Needless to say they were fussing and my three year old comes up to me to ask for something and I lost it on him. I screamed "SHUT UP AND GO AWAY!" My husband asked me what was wrong with me and I snapped out of it. How could I just snap like that, on my little boy who wasn't doing anything wrong. I felt horrible like I wanted to slap myself. So I apologized to him and explained that he did nothing wrong it's just mommy was upset and took it out on him. I have since taken a deeper look inside myself and realized that if I just take the time to breathe a few deep breaths right when I'm at my breaking point, I can control my sudden outbursts. It's really hard for me to control my emotions and that is something I really need to work on. It's so hard to admit that kids are an easy target and too often they are used as the outlet. It's a horrible thing to think about. I know I'm guilty of it and its sad because in the end they will love me and give me a hug. Why is it that the one you should take it out on you don't? There's the saying that we always hurt the ones we love, and I really don't understand why.
Jamie:
So the other day I was having a dissagreement with my husband and was extremely irritated. Well, I was getting the kids up from their nap and trying to feed them. Needless to say they were fussing and my three year old comes up to me to ask for something and I lost it on him. I screamed "SHUT UP AND GO AWAY!" My husband asked me what was wrong with me and I snapped out of it. How could I just snap like that, on my little boy who wasn't doing anything wrong. I felt horrible like I wanted to slap myself. So I apologized to him and explained that he did nothing wrong it's just mommy was upset and took it out on him. I have since taken a deeper look inside myself and realized that if I just take the time to breathe a few deep breaths right when I'm at my breaking point, I can control my sudden outbursts. It's really hard for me to control my emotions and that is something I really need to work on. It's so hard to admit that kids are an easy target and too often they are used as the outlet. It's a horrible thing to think about. I know I'm guilty of it and its sad because in the end they will love me and give me a hug. Why is it that the one you should take it out on you don't? There's the saying that we always hurt the ones we love, and I really don't understand why.
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