Jenn:
"Mom where's my shoes?" "Mom I can't find my toy" "Mom where's my backpack?" Sound familiar? Why do our kids expect us to know the exact location of everything they have ever touched?! I usually have something smart to say like " I don't know I put it back when I used it" or "Maybe if you put it wear it belonged you would find it!" These obviously mean nothing to him considering this war has been going on for about 6 years. Why does this happen? Why hasn't my 9 year old figured out that I am not lo-jack for his stuff? It's so annoying! Everyday he has misplaced something else! Not only does HE lose it he expects ME to find it!! I mean really what does he think happens? I sneak in and hide his stuff from him? Aliens come in and use lasers to move his things while he is sleeping!! Hopefully one day he will figure that he is responsible for his things. Not me!!
Jamie:
It's funny because my three year old has started demanding that if he can't find something that I go find it for him. He'll say "you find it mom!", and I tell him that I don't have to find it and if he wants to play with it then he will have to go and look for it himself. I can't believe that it starts at such a young age, and apparently never ends. My brother who is now 30 still does it to my mom and gets extremely upset and blames everyone else for his misplaced item. It's absolutly ridiculous!! I don't know if it's a guy thing or what? I don't ask my husband to find something that I lost, I simply ask him if he's seen what I'm looking for and if he hasn't I try to think of the last place I had it. Is it really that hard to keep track of our own stuff? I mean really!
Sunday, October 24, 2010
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Why do we always hurt the ones we love?
Jenn:
I think everyone has had a moment like this your frustrated,angry and your child says something to you. Anything, and you snap. You yell SHUT UP or LEAVE ME ALONE! Taking your frustration out on your innocent child. Why? Why do we do this? I have done this on more occasions then I would like to admit. I love my children more then I can say. But when I am angry they are the perfect little targets. They won't yell back. They offer no threat to me, and will still love me. Even after I have screamed at them. I feel awful after yelling at them. To my benefit, I have gotten a lot better at directing my anger at the correct person. Still sometimes I lose my patience too quickly. It's still a work in progress though.
Jamie:
So the other day I was having a dissagreement with my husband and was extremely irritated. Well, I was getting the kids up from their nap and trying to feed them. Needless to say they were fussing and my three year old comes up to me to ask for something and I lost it on him. I screamed "SHUT UP AND GO AWAY!" My husband asked me what was wrong with me and I snapped out of it. How could I just snap like that, on my little boy who wasn't doing anything wrong. I felt horrible like I wanted to slap myself. So I apologized to him and explained that he did nothing wrong it's just mommy was upset and took it out on him. I have since taken a deeper look inside myself and realized that if I just take the time to breathe a few deep breaths right when I'm at my breaking point, I can control my sudden outbursts. It's really hard for me to control my emotions and that is something I really need to work on. It's so hard to admit that kids are an easy target and too often they are used as the outlet. It's a horrible thing to think about. I know I'm guilty of it and its sad because in the end they will love me and give me a hug. Why is it that the one you should take it out on you don't? There's the saying that we always hurt the ones we love, and I really don't understand why.
Jamie:
So the other day I was having a dissagreement with my husband and was extremely irritated. Well, I was getting the kids up from their nap and trying to feed them. Needless to say they were fussing and my three year old comes up to me to ask for something and I lost it on him. I screamed "SHUT UP AND GO AWAY!" My husband asked me what was wrong with me and I snapped out of it. How could I just snap like that, on my little boy who wasn't doing anything wrong. I felt horrible like I wanted to slap myself. So I apologized to him and explained that he did nothing wrong it's just mommy was upset and took it out on him. I have since taken a deeper look inside myself and realized that if I just take the time to breathe a few deep breaths right when I'm at my breaking point, I can control my sudden outbursts. It's really hard for me to control my emotions and that is something I really need to work on. It's so hard to admit that kids are an easy target and too often they are used as the outlet. It's a horrible thing to think about. I know I'm guilty of it and its sad because in the end they will love me and give me a hug. Why is it that the one you should take it out on you don't? There's the saying that we always hurt the ones we love, and I really don't understand why.
Sunday, October 10, 2010
I love you child, but please shut up!
Jenn:
I must start this by saying my mom is going too laugh her ass off! Because I was a talker too (still am actually!) and she would say things like" God only gave you a certain amount of words and you are going to use them all by the time you are 25"!!! So when I had my adorable son and would look at him lovingly saying "I can't wait until he can talk". My mom would laugh, I never really understood why until now! My son will not,or can not stop talking! He will continue on and on about anything until I feel i might go crazy! Don't get me wrong I usually ask him to please be quite or to hush. But in the case of my son, who probably even talks in his sleep, I usually have to pull out the SHUT UP!!! Which I really don't like to say to him because no one likes to be mean to their baby. What other options do I have? I am repetedly polite and still he continues to chatter. Now I know why my mom was so cranky when she didn't get her alone time. We all need that time to think or to just hear the voices in our own heads! Just hold out for nap time or bed times mommas! It will be all right!!!!
Jamie:
So my three year old just started talking quite a lot these past few months. There are times when he says the most adorable or hillarious things. But I do have to say that it is very frusturating when I'm trying to get a few moments to myself and he just won't leave me alone. Like now for instance, I've been trying to write this blog for two days now and he's sitting practically on my lap talking to me about his airplanes. It's understandable that I am his buddy and best friend, but gosh kid please give me a minute. Also another time in the morning when I'm first waking up haven't had a chance to even get a sip of coffee and it starts mom, momma, mommy, MMMOOOOMMM!!!! WHAT!?! What do you need!? It just seems at times that it's never ending My twins are just starting to talk and oh my goodness it's cute! How mother nature really has us fooled. Here I am trying not to yell at my three year old but oohing and ahhhing at the little ones for saying toes or other such things. Ha! It's all an evil trick.
I must start this by saying my mom is going too laugh her ass off! Because I was a talker too (still am actually!) and she would say things like" God only gave you a certain amount of words and you are going to use them all by the time you are 25"!!! So when I had my adorable son and would look at him lovingly saying "I can't wait until he can talk". My mom would laugh, I never really understood why until now! My son will not,or can not stop talking! He will continue on and on about anything until I feel i might go crazy! Don't get me wrong I usually ask him to please be quite or to hush. But in the case of my son, who probably even talks in his sleep, I usually have to pull out the SHUT UP!!! Which I really don't like to say to him because no one likes to be mean to their baby. What other options do I have? I am repetedly polite and still he continues to chatter. Now I know why my mom was so cranky when she didn't get her alone time. We all need that time to think or to just hear the voices in our own heads! Just hold out for nap time or bed times mommas! It will be all right!!!!
Jamie:
So my three year old just started talking quite a lot these past few months. There are times when he says the most adorable or hillarious things. But I do have to say that it is very frusturating when I'm trying to get a few moments to myself and he just won't leave me alone. Like now for instance, I've been trying to write this blog for two days now and he's sitting practically on my lap talking to me about his airplanes. It's understandable that I am his buddy and best friend, but gosh kid please give me a minute. Also another time in the morning when I'm first waking up haven't had a chance to even get a sip of coffee and it starts mom, momma, mommy, MMMOOOOMMM!!!! WHAT!?! What do you need!? It just seems at times that it's never ending My twins are just starting to talk and oh my goodness it's cute! How mother nature really has us fooled. Here I am trying not to yell at my three year old but oohing and ahhhing at the little ones for saying toes or other such things. Ha! It's all an evil trick.
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